As someone who prefers to be in a leadership position whenever I can, I've learned that the easiest way for me to simply lose my patience is when trying to accomplish something collaboratively. I can understand when people don't execute plans properly. This type of mistake is expected and unavoidable. The mistake that seems to develop the most friction for me is when people are unable to analyze and synthesize why a certain course of action is preferable or why we should be focusing on certain goals rather than others.
This seems to come back to the never ending battle between emotion and logic. Albeit, there are certain people who just fail at stringing logical premises and conclusion together. But really, after a few attempts at trying to enlighten them, I'm going to move forward from this person. It's the person who I know is capable of grasping arguments that disturbs me and holds onto false ones because of emotional ties.
I watched this episode of House M.D. (which I enjoy simply for the clever ways he employs logic in order to be a first class asshole) in which House and his girlfriend have some static in their relationship because she caught him lying to her in order to do his job. The crux of his argument being that everyone lies so there's no good reason to get overly worked up about something you undoubtedly do to others. It has a mildly stoic ring to it. Scenes later, he catches her in a lie about her past. At this point, he feels vindicated in having proven his point since he has now lied to her and she has lied to him. He forgives her for her lie, but she's not going along. She's still upset.
Dramatically but principled, he lies to her yet again and gives her a false apology for having lied to her the first time. It's this type of over complication and necessity for venomous compromise that results from having to appease emotions and not logic that really deflates me at times. As much as I try and want to be connected to other people, these situations leave me feeling high degrees of isolation.
This seems to come back to the never ending battle between emotion and logic. Albeit, there are certain people who just fail at stringing logical premises and conclusion together. But really, after a few attempts at trying to enlighten them, I'm going to move forward from this person. It's the person who I know is capable of grasping arguments that disturbs me and holds onto false ones because of emotional ties.
I watched this episode of House M.D. (which I enjoy simply for the clever ways he employs logic in order to be a first class asshole) in which House and his girlfriend have some static in their relationship because she caught him lying to her in order to do his job. The crux of his argument being that everyone lies so there's no good reason to get overly worked up about something you undoubtedly do to others. It has a mildly stoic ring to it. Scenes later, he catches her in a lie about her past. At this point, he feels vindicated in having proven his point since he has now lied to her and she has lied to him. He forgives her for her lie, but she's not going along. She's still upset.
Dramatically but principled, he lies to her yet again and gives her a false apology for having lied to her the first time. It's this type of over complication and necessity for venomous compromise that results from having to appease emotions and not logic that really deflates me at times. As much as I try and want to be connected to other people, these situations leave me feeling high degrees of isolation.
